Be Yourself ~ Sounds Easy Doesn’t It

by: Shi Cheverie
Be Yourself ~ Sounds Easy Doesn’t It

Be yourself, really, who is that? What do people really mean when the say “Be yourself” Mind you, for some people that is one of the easiest things in the world. They have the natural ability to express themselves no matter how they are that particular day.

Ok, so now that you have decided to be you, your authentic true self, where do you go from there? Well, if you don’t know who you are, you are going to have to dig deep. Don’t worry, many people for centuries have never figured out who they are. They get lost amongst stronger personalities, lack confidence, or just have had lives where they have never thought of it, or had time to think of it. None the less, it’s not that difficult once you understand the process. “Be yourself and not a second best of someone else” Sounds kind of funny but it’s so true. You can’t be yourself if you are trying to be just like someone else. Start thinking about what you like about you, what you like doing and how you like doing it. Start realizing that it’s ok to be you. There are so many choices in life, and if you do the right thing you will never go wrong even if some people don’t like the way you are. When you come into your own, there will be people along the way that will not be happy. They like the old you better, even if you were pretty offensive. But, not to worry, there will be new people along the way to befriend you, to help you, to love you.

Once you have made a clear decision that you are not going to get hung up on being like someone else, give yourself time to grow. This is a slow process and it will not happen over night. It took many years to build your personality into who you are it will take quite a while to find your new comfort zone. Guaranteed, once you find your true self, you will be so much happier and freer. Work on the future, don’t look back on the past. You have dealt with the past and the mistakes, so to dwell on them the mistake will take away from your future. Take the lesson and move on with pride that you have learned your lesson and are a better person for it. Start realizing that you are no different from anyone else. We all breathe the same way, we all need to eat and we all have need love in our lives. Start hanging out with people that feel the same way as you do and realize to that they are no different from anyone else. A support group can be friends, family or co-workers. They will help you over the humps along the way.

Now here is a biggie, Stop Caring What Others Think! You are the way you are and the way you want to be or want to become. Allow yourself to be the new improved you. Who cares what others think. If you can’t live with yourself, no one else will ever be able to either. It doesn’t mean that other people’s opinions don’t matter it just means that your opinion matters more to you, and it should. Just make sure you know what you want and how you want it. Take other’s opinions into consideration and make the right choice for you to base your opinion on. Don’t be trivial and look at every little detail, you will micro manage yourself into a nut house. Learn the difference between constructive criticism and mean spirited comments. Constructive criticism deals with the faults in a positive manner, helping you find solutions. You will always walk away stronger after constructive criticism.

Here is another toughie, be open and hones with yourself. A closed mind is a dangerous thing. You are perfect each day just the way you are for that exact moment. So be honest with yourself, what have you got to hide, you know it all already. You have been with yourself each second of every day. Everyone has there ups and downs and quirky ways and that’s okay too. Once you realize that you can be different from every one else you can start to relax. Relax because you cant leave yourself and its okay to be you. You are infinitely better being you than the next person. You will feel more and ease in your own skin and that brings out a glow of confidence. A quality that is extremely attractive to everyone. It tends to draw people to you. Not because you are better or more confident than the next person but simply the sheer fact that you are relaxed and like yourself.

Always treat others the way you want to be treated. You attract what you put out there. So if you want to be loved be loving, if you want to have faithful friends be a faithful friend. If you want to be respected be respectful it is always a balance of give and take. For every action there is an equal or greater reaction, that goes for good and bad.
Start finding out what you are good at or enjoy and build on that. Create your own you. If you love music start hanging out with people that like music or play music. If you love reading, join a book club. Be completely yourself and don’t play a character that you want to be. The better you communicate to people who you are the easier it is for you to attract the right people to you. As for the other ones, just let them go. Once you start creating your new you, you start creating your own style. Maybe a new hair do, or a new way of dressing, you will know exactly what is right for you because it will feel good to you. If you always wanted to hike on your day off and never have, start building on that as part of the new you. If you have always wanted to go to the gym and lose some weight or get more fit, start building on it to be part of the new you. Your life will change if you choose the positives for you and not for your kids or your husband or your parents. We all change for 1 of 2 reasons. Either we change because we need to or we want to, either way, again it’s your choice.

Start focusing on the positives and just positives. Stop starving your own personality by constantly comparing yourself to others. Look deep inside of yourself for you own strength. Everything you ever needed to be the person you want to become is inside of you. Allow that wonderful personality to blossom and to become you. The real authentic you.

Have a great week and as always Keep the Faith.

Shi